20 things you need to accept about your 20s
Original article courtesy of: huffingtonpost.com
Edited, commented, corrected by fulkifadhila's (not that) beautiful mind.
But first, let me inform you dearest #grammarnazi, im not that good in grammar, please let go. :p
You're going to be broke for a very long time; Its the transition from being parents-financial-dependent into me-financial-independent. You start working but your financial is still unstable since you're a fresh starter, you will try every possible way to explore every option to be financial independent and not asking money from your parents
The first time you fall in love probably won't be the last. There are different kinds of love and people that will come into your life for different reasons. This is so true i have no other saying.
You will undeniably grow apart from your friends in some ways. You're going to move and get into relationships and careers that take up a lot of your time. Yes, one of my bestfriend will go to germany to take his master degree. I'm here ini south-east celebes, and i miss my friend in bandung, a lot.
Nothing in your life is permanent. That's horrifying and invigorating all at the same time. You have to embrace change and accept that it is 100 percent necessary.
You're never going to look "perfect," but you're beautiful the way you are. Accept what you see in the mirror and stop trying to change it. You're young and vibrant. Own it. Still need to improve this part. Like, a lot.
You're going to feel alone sometimes. It's going to seem like everyone has their own lives and you are floating in the ocean all by your lonesome. That's OK. In the end, you can only really count on yourself, and you will become stronger from the moments you felt abandoned. Very true, BIG TIME. This is why sometimes you are longing for the one to come along and be there with you.
There's never going to be a time that you will not need your parents in many ways. Its like I want my parents to be here with me most of the time.
You're going to feel unappreciated, defeated and disappointed at times. Yes, even questioning my identity as a doctor. Hiks.
You're going to change your mind about things. You can't feel guilty about leaving a relationship, city or career if it's what's best for you. Changing your mind is what you're supposed to do. As you see, hear, feel, and have experience more and more each day, you will be questioning your prior solid foundation.
Your college degree or work history isn't an easy ticket to success anymore. You are going to have to constantly prove yourself. Hard work is necessary! True, internsip doctor feels like buying time to delay galau-job-seeking-period. I dont know where to work and go or what to do next, hiks. I have the big picture on what I want to be or do next, but I cant elaborate these things onto detail step by step.
The past is over. You have to let go of every "what could have been" and go forward. Embrace the future. Nuff said.
It's not always going to be easy to be a good person. You're going to have to fight for what you believe is right and sometimes, no one will seemingly agree with you. Disagreement is common thing to be happened. Not just because someone disagree with you then you think your life will fall apart. You will have to speak up and stand tall for what you believe in.
Not everyone is going to like you and if you think that it's possible to be universally liked, you will kill yourself trying. Kill yourself trying, noted. Learnt it hard way.
You're going to misjudge people. Don't beat yourself up over trying to see the good in someone. Yep, I already learn a lot.
When you do find your person, they aren't going to be perfect. Your relationship or marriage will be hard sometimes. It isn't about thinking someone is perfect; it's about knowing that they are perfect for you. You need to marry your best friend, not your "dream" man or woman. Don't have any comment, I still don't have any experience about this. But I agree about this: marriage is not about happiness, its about stability. Its a very long and winding road, not just merely fling and hormonal-roller-coaster. I need my future husband to be my best friend.
Your body is going to change. Whether its due to having children or not having enough money for a gym membership, you're not always going to look 20. I repeat from #4, you're beautiful. Your body is supposed to change, just like everything else in life does. Huhuhu, despite few changes that make me look more beautiful *aheey, but still aging isnt easy to deal with. I deposite lots of adipose tissue lately, and I dont know how to get rid of it except do regular sports, but I'm suck at doing routine and forcing myself to do sports.
You're going to fall on your face multiple times. This could be from a relationship or job or really anything, but it will happen. You have to brush yourself off and learn from your mistakes. Yosh!
Not everything will be like you imagine it now. You may not want to dish out the money you'd need to have your Pinterest Wedding or have the job you imagined for yourself, and that's OK. Hahahaha still dreaming to have my pinterest wedding though. Arghhh i want to be a pediatrician and lecturer.
Your core values will not always align with those of the people around you. But you need to stand by them. Yes, we have to learn to master ourselves in having a good response toward others. If there's somebody mocking at your core values in front of you, what response will you give? Either way, do it gracefully. Deal with differences is common thing. Feelings involved will only make things worse.
You're going to feel like a different person after these years and probably know a heck of a lot more than you do now. It's most important that you remember who you are in your heart. Love freely. Move towards your dreams. Accept imperfection and realize that life will get messy, but it's a beautiful mess and it's all yours. And with all those messy things happened, you'll have a lot to learn. Life is improving day by day. Don't you agree?
In summary, I'm calling it: learning decade.